Wednesday, June 8, 2016

Love.


Love and more love
He made me feel it in my toes
He made feel it in soul
Love is what he created
Love is what I wanted more
More and more
His kisses and his voice
Only love
Crazy girl you’re in love
Love and more love
In bones in brain
In my veins
I could never stop with love
Love and more love
One day no more love
Vanished from my universe
Gone from my heart
Lost in the town
Content like the moon
Love no more


Thursday, January 14, 2016

Future


Future

She was five years old and scared for her future

 Most would say five years old is too young to worry

She wasn’t like most five year olds

 She knew her life was changing and did not know how or why?

 In the dark and in the middle of the night was the time

At the bus station uncertain and surrounded by strangers

She was a stranger, strange things were coming

Holding on to her blue purse she was ready

From there to the sky and then back down

Not one word was said, no choices only new smells

Into a red truck only to meet many strangers waiting with sideways smiles

Heartbroken she was

Unable to piece it together

She was only five and afraid of the future

Only five

 

Tuesday, July 21, 2015

If I could save the world


I used to believe I could save the world. In fourth grade I played the best recycle angel a fourth grader could be. I recycled, I did not waste food and I gave money to homeless people. I volunteered any chance I could.  Helping people gave me a purpose. The purpose to help my family kept me alive. Knowing every day that I would smile at someone in hopes of making their day – it made me feel like my life was less shitty and that anything was possible. 

 

This went on for a long, long time. When my mother left us I knew that was it. I had to be strong. I had to do things to keep us afloat. I worked two or three jobs. I became resourceful and helped my siblings. I felt I had a purpose. When I got married I knew I was risking everything. In my mind two things were happening. I was in love but I also wanted a better life to help my brothers. 

 

As you can predict, living in the ghetto in a two bedroom apartment we were exposed to everything. Like every stereotype, my brothers fell in the category of gangs and wrong people. Soon, all of my siblings would end up in jail. Yes jail, this is the first time I could write about it. Later my mother would also become another statistic. She had had four kids, no husband and soon ended up in jail and back to Mexico. For a long time only those close to me knew about this. Most of the time, I would make up stories as to who they were and what they were doing. I guess I was embarrassed. 

 

This year my youngest brother came out of jail and just like that I was hopeless and that urge came back. I wanted to help him, pick him up like a bird that had fallen from a tree. Now he was 23 and he did not want my help. With one son he did not want to come here with me. He wanted to be a man and a dad. 

 

I was happy for him - he wanted to take responsibility. I knew if someone could do it, it would be him. He did well for a while but the trash on the street sucked him in. Soon all the shadows and people followed him and brought him down once again.  

 

There is nothing worse than receiving a call from your brother pleading for help. Sitting there listening to him on the other side of the phone crying like a baby, telling you that you abandoned -him. My heart ripped apart into a million pieces. I did not know what to say. I wanted to get mad and explain that yes, I moved here and got married for them. I wanted a better life for them so that when this day came I could carry them in my arms and help them. The unfortunate thing is that I could not tell him that.

 

Yes, I have grown and my life has become better. I finally got my associates degree. I'm in the process of getting my citizenship. I have a pretty good job. After all of those things I still can't fix anything. I can't save my brother. I can't cure my best friend’s mother. I can't fix my mother. I cannot give my father money to help my brother. 

 

Once again, I feel like a child wanting to save the world but there are not enough recycle bins for what I want to do. Most cannot understand why I'm still here in a state 3000 miles away from those I love. I at times don't know why myself. This I write down is for you all. Please forgive me for not being there every moment. For not being able to hold your hand and or hug you when you have bad days. Just know that there are days I beat myself for all I have not been able to do with you. Maybe you think I'm selfish. Maybe you think I think I'm better. Think again. This letter is so you know that I have not forgotten about you. 

 

Every step forward is so that I someday could really help. How could I save you or help you when I can't do that for myself. Oscar, Jonathan, Charlie, Jennifer, Julie, Ashleigh and to my grandmother, father, mother and family; I love you every day. I think of you anytime I have a moment. See, most migrate to America for the "American Dream," I migrated to the North East for the same thing. 

 

I hope when you read this you know that dream when I was in fourth grade lives in me and that urge to love you and help is still here.

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Pretty


We sit looking so pretty

In our dresses, skirts and heels

Forgotten is the start

Forgotten is the battle

Waking up, hair in your face and eyes are puffy

Every day the same thing

Every night the same thing

Jump in the shower

Wash your face from the oils of the night cream we have slept in

Wash your hair, or not, it depends if we believe one is better than the other

Shave your legs and your pits; stand in there ready to go back to bed

Getting out one leg at a time, oh if only I was taller, oh if only I was shorter

Here and there the battle of every day and every night

What to wear, what to wear?

For I am too fat, oh too skinny, maybe apple shape, pear shape, mango shape, celery

The cellulite, the frizzy hair, hair so straight, oh the wrinkles

We put on our garments, now the shoes, yes, those freaking shoes

To blow dry or not, that is the question

To curl or flatiron, to burn it or simply just leave it

Then the oils, creams, de-puffers, bb cream and concealer

Yikes, a zit and the wrinkles, plus the spots

Now the powder, bronzer, shadow and mascara

Using tools that clamp our lashes because they make us happy

Some perfume here we go

Nine pm and we are exhausted

To peel and peel all the layers

Oh the process, oh the work

 The torture and the pain

They do say “beauty is pain”, they never said how much pain

If only the people we impress would pay us for our work

 We would be rich; we would not be hungry and angry

We would not have to do all this, we would love ourselves

We would not paint ourselves, we would not have blisters

We would not pay the expense

We would be proud; we would be natural and fresh

Just like a tree we would show our scars, wrinkles and wisdom with our age

We would be bare

Then our roots they would grow and our product would be simple and mature

No worries, no care and only time we would dissipate

From the earth we grow and to the earth we end

Instead we smile and reset

We sit there oh so pretty 

STARVING


STARVING
 

Always starving

Starving for food

Starving to be skinny, starving to fit in

Always starving

Starving for acceptance, starving for a like

Always starving

Starving for some love

Starving for a look, starving for a compliment

Always starving

Starving to be cool

Starving for the truth, starving for a crew

Always starving

Starving, starving, starving

Never satisfied, always getting mad

Always a disaster

Always hungry

STOP

Always starving.

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Inconceivable Mistake.


I used to think that love would come to you full of passion and madness, oh the madness. I imagined myself full of anger yet full of love; the kind of love that you read about in novels or poems. I have had that kind of love. That love I had was madness but yet it hurt. I have also have had the other kind of love, the love you stay in because you love the person so much it hurts you to know they are not who you want to spend the rest of your life with.

After a long, crazy, up and down relationship with someone whom I really believed was my true love I learned that I only had ideas of what love was really about.

Don’t get me wrong, I still believe that love is a powerful feeling, unspeakable and therefore making you do things you could never have imagined doing. I have played every role in the book, “the damsel in distress”, “dominator”, “the let me change my life for you”, but after all that I realized one thing. When you are looking for love you cannot allow yourself to be anyone but yourself. The second thing I learned was that you have to love yourself before you can love. Last I learned that love comes in different shapes and colors.

After my last relationship I went on many dates, dates that were boring, crazy fun and others merely crazy.

I was drowning in alcohol and making every bad decision I could have possibly made. I mean, I was single, hurt and ready for fun.  That soon got old, what seemed fun became just an excuse for me to try and forget. The more I tried, the more I failed, embarrassed myself and continued to be lonely.

Right before Christmas there was a company holiday party and my co-worker was going to go with me. Not sure why but I did not want to show up alone since everything else in my life seemed lonely. Last minute he said he could not go, so I texted any boy in my phone to see if they were free. I had no luck so, I contemplated not going. That same week I had been texting back and forth with a boy who could have become M#3 (Mike).  We had met online and he seemed nice, funny and was handsome. I did what most people would have never done, I asked him to go with me. He agreed.

I got ready that day and drove over to his house not knowing what to expect or what would happen. Most normal logical people would have never done what I did. Off we went to the party. After that we talked for a few weeks and then came a text (he could have called, but men don’t do that nowadays).  He said to me “I have to let you know that I’m not looking for a relationship, if you want to keep hanging out, we can” in other words he wanted a friend with benefits. At that moment I was not mad or sad but I wish I was on a dating game show and I could have used a big red X to X him out.  SO, I said we could only be friends and nothing else, if I wanted to have meaningless sex I could find anyone else.

After that I received text messages from him to go to the movies or out for drinks but it would never happen.  One night he text me while I was at a bar with my girlfriend. He asked for us to go over to his brother’s house for drinks.  At the time my girlfriend was single and I remember thinking his brother was handsome, so off we went.

We spent the night having beers and joking, all five of us. The entire time I had no chemistry with him but his brother and I seemed to just be seamless, As if the stars had been aligned. At the time I did not take notice because I had declared I was out of the dating club at least for a while, plus I was still a bit hung up on my ex who would show up once in a while.  This guy asked entirely wrong questions, including political opinions, religion and sex but somehow I was not mad.  At the end of the night my girlfriend swore he and I had hit it off. I was in denial.  How was that possible?

When I got home he had Facebooked me, yes the old FB. He asked about his brother and I and I explained to him the sequence of events. After talking he asked me out. I naturally said NO. I had never been in that position before. Most of my friends know that I have been in many random situations and that normally I like the idea of dating but never move forward. Some know that I have not showed up for dates or have canceled last minute. Sure, most guys never got even a chance and maybe they could have been great but I love romance when it comes to everyone else.

Maybe I love the flirting and the first date but after that I would get un-charmed. Initially I said no but this guy just showed interest, the kind that well, it’s hard to find.  I could not get past the idea of his brother, but he made it clear that he had asked him if it was ok.  I also, asked M#3 if it was ok. Even after that, I had to consult with the only person I thought knew me best, my ex-boyfriend.  He said “Karla you do this all the time, if you think he is interesting go”. Finally, I gave in.

He showed up and I asked him wait outside.

We went on that date and it was as if we both needed a pause button. Neither of us could seem to stop talking. We talked and talked. He spent the night but we just hugged. That weekend he and I went on a hike. When we got to the bottom he looked at me and said “look at you full of snow everywhere” and he kneeled down to wipe my feet. To anyone this would not mean much but to me it meant the world. It was so simple, here was a guy that already was selfless and made me feel something I could not describe.

As time went by we did not want to become official, maybe it was his lack of experience and my weird me thinking good things don’t come to me. For the first 3 months I was in denial and for the next 3 I was afraid. I was afraid that what I once had felt for someone should always feel that way. My struggle continued but soon after it all made sense. I did not want to date my ex again, I just wanted his approval, and I guess I always did. I wanted him to see me for who I was and maybe he did but neglected to love me. Here I was with someone who clearly would remind me that no matter how big of a mess I am he would still clean my shoes.

After a long text and email to my ex about how I really truly felt and how he treated me I received from him what I expected all the time, “nothing”, he did not even respond. Then one morning I woke up next to my love and it was something about the way he looked at me that I soon felt peace.

Our love evolved from the strangest situation and it continues to grow, not one day is the same. He sees me for who I am and I love everything about him. Sure we fight and laugh and what not.

Sometimes you can walk into a restaurant to go on a blind date and you know you love someone and then there are times you fall in love by mistake. An, inconceivable mistake.

Killing Myself


There are many things that can change your life. There was a man I loved. He was what I thought to be unique and he is. He was the first to give me my first heartache. For over two years I kept trying to believe that somehow things would eventually get back to normal. I tried to be his friend but it was not enough. He didn't treat me like a friend and I could not get passed how I felt.

One summer night I was out with friends and had a few drinks. In a bathroom stall I quickly turned into the crazy ex-girlfriend. Yes, this girl, the girl that said she would never fall into that category. I ate every thought or opinions that I had on women that choose to act the part. Where the idea came I'm not certain, maybe it was my exhausted brain constantly wondering why he treated me the way he did.

When I would try and be his friend he would throw crumbs at me like I was a lost baby chick. I would eat them all up thinking something would change. Then I would feel sick and used. After that pattern continued for a while that night I had had enough. I stood there looking at his FB wondering why he was so normal with everyone but me.

I guessed at that moment that maybe he just wanted me in his shadow. So I looked at his friends on FB and saw a name that I had seen two weeks after we broke up and sure enough I googled it. In my searches I found her Instagram and a picture of them that day. My first question was he said they’re just friends; why would a friend drive six hours to see her but not 45 min for me. Sure, I was selfish in that moment and I snapped. I sent him a very nasty text telling him how hurt and betrayed I felt.

I'm not proud of that moment. It was nearly "stalkish" and very unbecoming. I didn't cry. It was as if the blind I could see for the first time that I would always be, his secret friend. Just like the day he lied to his ex-Cecile and said we had just happened to hook up when in reality we were dating. Yes, he broke my heart twice. The first time he called me and asked to meet up and talk, in turn into getting back together.

After remembering that moment that he had lied to her I preceded to google her. When I found her, I found a different part of me. Coming across her twitter profile I saw her “100 days of happiness”. It was then when I realized that someone that had been impacted by him, as well as her impacting him was happy.

She was successful, happy and had moved on. Boom! Like a bucket of cold water it hit me. I could also be happy but I had to love me and make me happy.

As far as the stalking moment I had that night I think at times "you’re crazy" can make a positive impact on you. I'm not proud of that moment but I'm certain that I can breath and I can love and I can let others love me. I know in his mind I will always be that poor soul, that crazy ex-girlfriend and the girl who cried a million tears for him. I became Juliet but instead of killing myself for love I moved on.